Townhall.com:
The news scrolled across the bottom of my screen and I had to scrub my eyes to be sure I was reading it correctly. “Openly gay actor, Neil Patrick Harris, and partner, David Burtka, expecting twins.” Two men “expecting twins?” How, exactly, does that work? Expecting twins to do what?Mothers not needed. It's just being "progressive".
As I learned more, the facts became clear. Harris, of Doogie Howser and How I Met Your Mother fame, and his lover have retained a surrogate womb to incubate twins. Whose sperm and whose eggs are being used to produce the twins is unclear. In their press statements, Harris and David continually emphasized the word, “normal.” One sentence even had them speaking over each other as Neil begins, “...We get to do it a normal (then David interjecting: normal) way – like people would normally (then David interjecting again: emphasis on the word, 'normal') do.” They used the word “normal” four times within two seconds of audio. Methinks they doth protest too much.
How exactly is it “normal” for two men to retain a surrogate womb (for fee, I presume) to birth twins? Perhaps someone can help me understand that.
In fact, it is deeply concerning. Intentionally creating the lives of two children and then intentionally denying those children the love of a mother is, I believe, wrong. It reeks of selfishness. How can anyone bless as normal the decision to deprive two children of experiencing the ongoing, daily unconditional love of a mother? Many families are forced to cope without a mother as a necessary response to exigencies of life. However, Harris and Burtka are doing it on purpose. No person or couple should ever set out from the beginning to deprive children of the presence of their mother.
In America today, we often have the conversation regarding how fathers matter. Such a conversation is crucial in a culture where over 40% of children were born to single mothers last year. But now, we have to engage in a conversation on whether mothers really matter. There is nothing normal about this.
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You are a sad man, unable to love anything different from you or your believings.
ReplyDeleteShame on you.
From Barcelona, Spain. A place you'll never get to know because of your cultural blindness.
Take care, live long, love more.
Luis
And by the way, I'm not gay, but i wouldn't mind at all to have grandsons from my homosexual son, because in any way I would truly believe them to be raised with education, unconditional love, freedom to choose their lives and respect about it.
ReplyDeleteWhat else do they need from us?
What more do they need?..
with such a narrow blinkered outlook on life.What a shame your exsistence is so full of hatred and mis-truthes.You are a sad relection of everything that is evil in the world,this is the 21st century,you biggoted,neanderthal.
ReplyDeleteI believe you are sad person, and your narrow-mindedness will always stop you from ever seeing the world as it should be seen. Two men or two women can provide a loving, caring environment for children...Shame on you!
ReplyDeleteYep, I have to agree with the comments above in response to your posting. All that really matters is that a child is loved deeply regardless if it's by a mother and father or two fathers, one parent, too mothers, whatever.
ReplyDeleteIt's people that force their own negative judgments like you have, that cause more emotional damage to them. Open your mind.
I always liked NPH, but I'm with you on this one. It's very selfish of them. Thanks for standing up for common sense.
ReplyDeleteyou are so right no one deserves to be ripped the love of a mother
ReplyDeleteI can't believe I read this kind of "article' in 2010...the worst is that you might not be that old, and you think you can pretend to be a journalist, an objective eye on the world..i'm astonished..
ReplyDeleteyou might think it's much better when a couple get a child they don't want, hate each other, and make daily life turn into a nightmare for the child? in my opinion, when you're gay (2 men), you're much more ready to raise a child with all the obstacles you have to overcome..sounds more like a thoughtful decision
not so long ago, you would have said that Black people should not have children because not able to love, to think, etc like "the normals"..you think you're a right-minded guy who is clever enough to analyse everybody?that you have enough integrity to say what is good or not for all those who are different from you? sorry but you're wrong! you're just one more Puritan wearing blinders discussing the world pains in society parties
i really, really feel sorry for your children..
-- Joan from France --
Are you kidding? How many mothers walk out? or even give their children up? The world is not a perfect 60's sitcom family. Not everyone under even normal circumstances can actually have a mother.
ReplyDeleteWhat should matter is the fact that they will give the children a LOVING home and provide for them to the best of their ability.
I feel sad for you and for the prejudices you will pass along to your children.
You homophobic jerk...!!!
ReplyDeleteEven animals know that they only mate with the opposite gender. How can we human, especially the western or caucasian countries, so proud of the advancement of technologies, go into something so dumb such as homosexuality? If animals can understand the law of procreation just through instinct, why cant human who has the advantage of understanding and thinking, unable to comprehend it? 40 to 50 years ago someone with homosexual tendencies were treated as a patient with mental illness. But now its considered 'modern' or 'progressive' to be one. They even make it sound alright b calling it from sodomites to gay. why?
ReplyDeleteSo if pedophilia is chargeable in a court of law now, can it be okay in maybe 10 to 20 years time? And maybe it can be called 'child lover' instead of 'underage sex'?
@Rafik of Boon Lay, you're sounding dumb yourself, please do some research and then comment. homosexuality exists in animals as well.
ReplyDeleteeuh Rafik of Boon Lay...are saying that homosexuality and pedophilia are similar???
ReplyDeleteI think you have lost your mind! Fist of all gays weather it be two men or two women are both consenting adults! Child pornography is with just that, a child someone who has no clue what is happening to them. What is wrong with this world today?! You people think just because someone is different that there choices make them wrong. Or that who they are is wrong. Your the ones who are wrong! How dare you judge! I am a mother and the only thing I want for my son is to grow up knowing he is loved. If something happen to me and my husband I would not hesitate to let my gay best friend take care of him. He would love him and raise him to be a good person and respect other people! Where did your parents go wrong?! Or did you not have a mother and that's why your so pissed! Get over yourself!!!!
ReplyDeleteGREY GHOST, you didn't really expect people to agree with your article did you?
ReplyDeleteSociety is changing.
Right is called wrong and wrong is called right.
Although Rafik, me and you see the absurdity in all this, the "progressive society" will never agree.
In their eyes, you are bigoted, loveless homophobe.
Keep calling a spade a spade and ignore the naysayers.
Ok, naysayers, now attack me as you did Rafik and Grey Ghost.
C'mon, bring it on, blah blah blah.
Um let's see, I guess I need a name so you can do the name calling, um, let's go with "George"
Sincerely,
George
"Motherly" type love does not have to come from a female. A heterosexual man can be naturally more "motherly" than a heterosexual woman. I think the more important thing here would be that any child be raised by two parents that love and support that children above all else. If these two men can provide that kind of environment to their children, that really is the only thing that matters.
ReplyDeleteMy question is about lifestyle. Gay men are notorious for drama, bed-hopping, and more drama. Will they be able to focus on the full time nurturing of a child? Perhaps they will hire nannies...which would solve most of the problems. Stereotypes are not always accurate, but think about it....they exist for a reason.
ReplyDeleteI think Niel Patrick Harris is AMAZING, AWESOME and again AMAZING. I'm sure if he chose to be a parent is because he is ready, he has enough love to share with the whole world and has the money to support all the of the children's needs. Not like most of the broke ass heterosexual couples. You're just jelouse because you are not one of those babies and live a disgusting life, *cough cough broke ass mofo, I bet you're fugly too. Like you heterosexual families are so fucking perfect yourselves :P please...
ReplyDeleteI love you Niel Patrick Harris keep being as cool as you are ;)
Danny, Love and Rocktes
Ok, who is say what is normal. And who are you to say they cannot give the children the love they deserve. You are just a narrow minded person who can't see that love comes in many forms. So what if it is between two men or two women or a man and woman (as you call normal).
ReplyDeletewhy the hell would anyone believe that two people as awesome as neil patrick harris and david would not make damn great parents ? Gosh, i wish they were my parents :) and im sure their children at least would narrow mindedly judge people...
ReplyDeleteand p.s. to guy who said stereotypes exist for a reason: yeah, sure they do. the reason is that there are a lot of people like you who are super dumb ,intolerant,jealous and scared of anyone diffrent from them!
*wouldnt
ReplyDeleteThis is probably one of, if not THE WORST, blogs I have ever wasted my time reading. I would much rather have a gay couple, be it women or men, love and nurture children than half of these people who are called "parents." Take the time and read up on some of the most notorious child abuse cases, like baby Brianna Lopez. Throughout her short 6 months of life, she was beaten daily, bitten all over her body by her own mother, raped multiple times by her father and uncle and on the night she died, she was being tossed by her drunk daddy up into the ceiling and would fall straight to the ground. I have yet to read monstrosities such as this about gay couples who adopt children, as they have been committed by heterosexual parents.
ReplyDeleteI believe in God. I believe in the God of the Bible. I believe homosexual practice is wrong, because the Bible clearly says it is wrong. I believe history shows the Bible to be correct. I think it is wrong of these people to be promoting the homosexual agenda, because my faith says it is all wrong. There are homosexuals in the church, and I think they are wrong. However, I am not the one who will burn in hell.
ReplyDeleteNot only are these guys depriving someone of a mother, they are involved in an evil lifestyle. They are on the path to destruction and many are on the same path. Too bad, but there is hope. People can repent.
Mr. Grey Ghost
ReplyDeleteI see you are a democratic. That puts you in danger of the fires of hell too.
How about we all worry about our on lives and let a happy couple give love to their children. Whats sad is that this guy even created a post about this. Go figure out how to improve our economy or work out health care problems. And go get a hug from your mommy if your so deprived of motherly love.
ReplyDeleteYour statistic was very obviously made up on the spot. How can you even begin to account for all the single fathers who raised their children without wives to mother their children? What about the families with mothers that mistreat and abuse their children. If you want to get technical you uneducated prick, you'd know that psychologically it has been shown that children need the love of a father MORE than the mother. Go ask Freud.
ReplyDeleteIt is not selfish to want a family of your own. It's selfish of you to say that men don't have the right to want children, and it's sexist of you to say that women are the predominate factor, labeling us childrearing-machines.
cheers to David and Niel, who can finally build a family and a life together. I'm sure they'll love their children very much and take great care of them.
Neanderthals are alive and living in Brooklyn, I see!
ReplyDeleteI find it hard to credit that we're almost in 2011 and people out there still think that being gay is a CHOICE?! Trust me, when you consider all the crap and abuse most gay men (and women) have to endure, why would anybody choose to be gay?!
Get over yourself grey goose and wake up to the fact that we're not still living in the middle ages.
We are not living in the middle ages for sure but does that mean we are living 'right'? Children were given to Adam and Eve, man and woman, period. We have so distorted what God intended.
ReplyDeleteit is selfish and sad that two people living a destructive lifestyle would bring children into it and corrupt them as well. They can choose to be sinful but to try and pervert children too is beyond sad.
ReplyDeletehow narrow minded can you get? A Mother's unconditional bond? Are you saying that a man cannnot care for someone as much as a woan? Wrong!
ReplyDeleteI think especially in a relationship between two men, their love is even stronger, because they have gone through the homophobic comments and hate, and have still stuck together despite it, and that is what i call love. And with love that strong of course they are able to love a child unconditionally too.
A woman. x
You're a pig and should be ashamed to have actually had written an article like that. I feel very sorry for you. Grow up. No one wants to listen to your rubbish - it's makes me sick.
ReplyDeleteI have two fathers myself and I have had the very best any child could ever hope for. Anymore who has an issue with a gay couple raising a child/children are insecure with themselves. The reality is the world has changed, we are developing in all factors of life and being more accepting and open minded is definitely one of those. Keep up with the times.
Gender is only genitals. A loving parent is a loving parent no matter what genitals they carry around.
ReplyDeletePeople should stop asking - is it better for a child to have a mummy and a daddy or just a daddy or just a mummy or two daddies or two mothers or one daddy and two mothers or.... the list goes on. It doesn't matter. Love matters. People matter. Gender is just accessories!
the writer of this is a fucking idiot and ppl like this homophobic bigots frustrate me to no end... how dare you
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